Not to toot my own horn, but I’m pretty impressed with who I am at the age of 33 (and I say that number loud and proud). I’m a college graduate in a truly loving marriage, with a healthy daughter who is blossoming more and more with each passing day, a fulfilling teaching career, and am someone who has taken major risks in her life in the name of adventure, love, and passion. If I could go back and have a pep talk with awkward 16 year old me, I would totally reassure her that life turns out better than even she is dreaming. Yep, I’m pretty darn happy…but that doesn’t mean I want to stop growing and evolving as a person.
There is something about the word “resolution” that I don’t like. By definition, a resolution is “a firm decision to do or not do something.” That seems pretty cut and dry and not a whole lot of room for being…well, human. And I am human. A very flawed human at that. And sometimes I also think something is a good idea or a bad idea and then find out that the opposite is true. So, I’m a flawed human being who is sometimes wrong. With all this in mind, I have found that having resolutions don’t work out so great and the year ends with me feeling disappointed in myself rather than feeling renewed and enlightened.
So, I no longer make resolutions. But I do challenge myself annually. I like the word “challenge” better, as it gives you room to be wrong and/or to occasionally fall off the horse of success. With a challenge, there is room for a learning curve and the ultimate goal seems less defined and more “the journey is the lesson.” Of course, when picking my challenges for 2016, I thought of the little things I could do differently everyday that might help improve and enrich my life.
Are you curious yet? I thought you might be. For the year of 2016, I will be challenging myself to….
… Being Present In The Moment. It seems like that phrase is being said by everyone lately, but I feel like it can mean different things to different people. To me, it means putting my phone away more (something that is a wee bit tricky when you are a blogger, since you feel like something on the internet is always calling for your attention). Focusing on who I am within the moment instead of planning or thinking about what I need to do next. Remembering that my daughter is only this little for so long. That the people here, in front of me, are the most important in my life. And that soaking in a moment is better than snapping a picture of it.
….Making “Me” time more of a priority. This is something that I know, in the depths of me, is vital for my health. Me time isn’t always about getting coffee with friends or getting a (badly needed) pedicure, but giving myself time to exercise, read a book, or being in charge of what music is playing in the car. Me time is about making sure I remember that I am the core of my world and taking care of that person. Because if I am not healthy and happy….my life and relationships won’t be either.
…Trusting myself more. My willingness and ability to see things from other people’s point of view has always been a strength of mine. However, with that willingness to embrace different ways of thinking, I sometimes question my own personal choices or opinions. I wonder if I am parenting in the best way. Or focusing my attention on the correct areas of life. Or feeding my family in the best way possible (yeah, I worry about that too). Well, this year I am going to make a point of telling those little voices of self-doubt to shove it and listen to the two things that have always given me solid advice….my gut and my heart. I know what is best for me and my life…just like you guys know what is best for you and your life deep down (and you guys shouldn’t let anyone ever make you question that!)
What about you guys? What are your challenges for 2016? What learning journeys will you be taking yourself on this year in the name of a more whole, fulfilling, and healthful life?